Why do you need picture upfront??

So often, I come across netizens who ask for a pic before any sort of acquaintance is made. I find this strange and somwhat annoying.Why do we give so much importance to looks?

I admit looks are important and one has to like what one see, if the relationship has to bee strong.But, is looks the most important factor? I dont think so.And, it is actually not safe to share pics with a person whom you have just met over the internet.One has to try and understand what lies beneath,no naughty thoughts pls...., and communication through words is the most needed medium.For me, looks are secondary.I have often come across dashing, model like material which does not offer much in terms of emotional substance.

sexually active or not???

we often come across such situations where we are attracted to someone, but can not be sure about the sexuality or response of the other person.this is especially difficult for gays.

many men actually like to have the pleasure of getting sucked, doing anal or oral fucking.these men may not necessarily be gay, but still love the feel of it.especially since in places like Kerala, unless you are married, you have very little chances of having a sexual relationship with another person.homosexual experiences could be a relief for the aching body and mind.

the big question is, how to identify interested people with out offending them.i have been lucky enough to have had many successful experiences, but still i have not found a steady gay partner.

The weekend

It was a busy weekend. I went for a house warming function on Sunday, with my friend. It was nice to see the amount of co-operation and togetherness that still prevails in the villages of Kerala.I am afraid the joy of sharing among the neighbours, is a thing of the past for city dwellers like me.

We travelled by bus instead of my Pulasr because of the rain. This gave me the opportunity to relax and keep my senses open to new refreshing sights.Of course, this included cute faces and lovely, tempting specimens of handsomeness.

The rhythm of rain..

I have always been mesmerised by the beauty and rhythm of rain.Having grown up in the beautiful state of Kerala with its long monsoon season, I feel romantic and more erotic when rain pours down.

I have wonderful memories of so many rainy days and more vivid nights, spent in the close company of my first gay partner.We used to sleep together in rainy nights and if the thunder lights were photo flshes, the album would have been a masterpiece of gay erotic art.

Now as the water drops knocks at my window, I feel nostalgic.

 

Yesterday's fun

I met a like minded person yeterday, and we had a great time.I hope to see him again soon.

My city...

Calicut is the place where I live. It is not my native place, but I like the freindly and unassuming nature of the people here.It is true that I find the people here to be very conservative, in many ways,and I am under the impression that it is this conservative outlook that keeps the city from relaising its full potential.

Having said this, it might sound ironical that, of the many places that I have lived in, I feel this is the place which has the most visible gay community.There are many locations to look out for gay men, and gay sex workers are also easily gettable, though I would advise that this could be really risky in more ways than one.

The stigma

It is quite evident that Kerala, much like the rest of the country has still not acknowledged the fact that homosexuality is a reality.One can find any number of articles and advisory columns, even by quailified medical practitioners, telling that homosexuality is a psychological disorder that has to be treated and remedied.

It is worth noting that, a society that prides on false notions of equality and modernistic outlook, turns hypocritical when anything related to hmosexuality is mentioned.Infact, the Indian scociety and Keralites in particular, shuns any meaningful dicussion or analysis of sexuality as a whole, whether its is homo or hetro in nature. Of late, some national news channels have been telecasting programmes focussing on sexuality which is an encouraging sign.

Still in the closet

I am not out to the society I live in, about my sexuality. Only three of my closest friends know about it.

The first friend has over the years shared many blissful sexual moments with me.He too actively participated in these activities and has always been equally interested.He is now married and settled.

The second friend know I am gay.He is straight and does not have any sexual relationship with me. He does not approve of my sexuality, but still maintains good friendhip with me.

The third friend is also straight. He has been a passive partner for me, I have had the ooportunity to explore him over the years.He enjoys the bliss, but is afraid to admit the same.As a result, he sometimes denies the bliss to himself and to me.He is my closest friend, and we have so much love and affection for each other.

It is becoming increasingly difficult for me to lead the dual life. I know I am a GAY, but am not able to acknowledge the same in public. There are many reasons for this predicament...

When and How?

When and How did I realize I am gay?

Well, it is hard for me to absolutely sure about the time. I remeber that I used to enjoy groping and sucking with a class mate while I was studying in fifth standard itself.(around 11 years old)

Of course, we were too yooung to have an ejaculation, still this is my earliest memory of any kind of sexual activity. Over the years, I had many occassions to identify my liking towards homo-sex. Finally I am convinced I am a GAY.

At this point, I must confess, I have not had any sexual activity with opposite sex so far.But, I enjoy homo-sex and apart from sex, I prefer male friends and male companions rather than the female ones.